There has long been a saying about men and sex: That it is impossible to have too much. That even ‘bad sex’ is better than no sex. That turning down sex is an absolute travesty and should be avoided at all costs. However, many men have noticed that after a long, enjoyable weekend of intimacy, they might have a very sore penis. Even the best penis care might not alleviate the problem before they want to get things started again.

Does this mean a man is having too much sex? That’s an age-old question that pops up from time to time, and there are always quite strong opinions about what constitutes ‘too much.’ So as with any other interesting question, scientists and researchers tackled it head-on - and they came up with somewhat of an answer.

How much sex is too much?

The problem with determining how much sex is really too much is that every man is very different and what one considers going overboard, another sees as simply par for the course. For instance, a man who hasn’t had sex in a long while might see three times a day as being the ideal, while a man who is shifting his hips repeatedly to find a comfortable way to deal with his sore penis might believe that once a day is just fine, thank you.

There is also the question of ‘measuring up’ to other men. Some men believe that everyone is having more sex than they are, and so the ideal must be something more than what they are having. Society has led men to believe that they should want sex all the time, no matter what, and be ready and raring to go anytime a female merely suggests that she might want to do more than cuddle.

Here are some facts that might put the question of ‘how much’ into perspective. Those between the ages of 19 and 29 have sex an average of 112 times per year; that’s only about twice per week. Those who are between the ages of 30 and 39 have sex 89 times a year, while those between 40 and 49 tend to drop even more, and have sex only about 69 times per year. Though some men may be outliers and are truly having sex every night, the truth is that most people are getting lucky only once or twice a week.

When it comes to how much sex really is too much, the bottom line is pretty simple: If sexual activity is happening so often that it consistently affects work, family life and relationships, that’s too much. Another point to consider is the red, irritated, tired and sore penis. There comes a point where the spirit is willing but the body just can’t keep going, and that’s also a sign that it’s time to lay off the mattress gymnastics and cuddle for a while instead. As with so many other things in life, when the body says ‘enough is enough,’ pay attention.

Soothing the sex-weary penis

Men who are enjoying the thrill of a great deal of sex should pay very close attention to their sexual health, including the health of their rather busy member. To help aid in the pursuit of the best penis health possible, men should turn to a specially formulated penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). Look for a cream that includes a variety of powerful vitamins, such as vitamin A for antibacterial properties, vitamin E for softening the skin and vitamin D for supporting healthy cellular function. The skin-soothing properties of Shea butter make for a perfect vehicle to apply these nutrients to the skin. Use of a high-quality crème every day can help ensure a penis that is ready for action - no matter how much action might be happening.