Women are quite fortunate creatures. They can fully enjoy a sexual encounter with an eager and enthusiastic partner, savor the orgasmic bliss that comes from a satisfying romp, and be ready and raring to go again immediately. But for a man, the spirit might be willing but the body, not so much. Even with top-notch penis care, great overall health and more than a little desire for that lovely partner, a man has to deal with the refractory period - a time when no matter how much he wants to enjoy sex again, it’s just not going to happen until Nature is ready.

A long romp in the sack might lead to an irritated or chafed penis. Many men appreciate this ‘badge of honor’ as an indication that they had a good time and provided a great deal of satisfaction to their partner. But about those men who claim to be able to get it on three or four times a night, or even more?

My friends, those men are probably lying.

To understand why they are blowing smoke, let’s look at what really happens to the male body after an orgasm.

The basics of the refractory period

The refractory period is the time between the initial orgasm and when a man is able to have an additional orgasm or ejaculation. A man can sometimes get hard during this time period, but an orgasm will be elusive. For some men, getting hard at all during the refractory period will be very difficult, if not impossible.

Most men need at least an hour to get things going again. Estimates range between 30 minutes and 24 hours, and much of that wide spectrum is due to age; the younger a man is, the shorter his refractory period will probably be.

Why does it happen?

When the spirit is willing (and so is the partner) but the body is unable to follow through, it can be incredibly frustrating. But the refractory period is an indication that a man had a great sex session. After an orgasm, the body releases the hormone prolactin, which is known to hinder arousal and the ability to ejaculate.

The spike in prolactin might be stronger for those men who had a more intense and satisfying experience. That means that a really good sex session might put a man ‘out of commission’ for several hours.

If a man realizes that his refractory period suddenly becomes much longer than it used to be, there might be other reasons for it. Masturbating regularly will often take away the ‘edge’ that might get a man going again faster. Drinking alcohol could mean that a guy gets one good erection to enjoy for a while, but once the orgasm is over, so is his attempt at trying anything else until the alcohol wears off.

Some medications might affect the refractory period as well. Anything that affects the blood pressure or heart can have a say in how long the refractory period is. Those who suffer from diabetes might find that nerve issues with uncontrolled blood sugars make for an extended refractory period. And sometimes the problem is as simple as an overload of stress or being extremely tired.

Soothing the chafed penis

A man who realizes that his refractory period has lengthened considerably in a short period of time with no apparent reason should always see the doctor to ensure all is well.

Those who take advantage of a short refractory period and have sex several times in a row might encounter a quite happy but chafed penis. To help ensure things stay healthy and ready for another round, a man should regularly use a fantastic penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). Seek out ingredients that matter most, such as vitamin B5 for cell metabolism, as well as alpha lipoic acid that helps the penis resist premature aging. Hydration is most important for a chafed penis, so look to a crème that contains the luxury of Shea butter as well as a healthy dose of vitamin E.