For most men, masturbation is an activity they have been intimately involved in for years - usually longer than they have been engaged in any kind of partner-based sex. Masturbation is a regular part of most men’s lives and plays a role in their penis care regimen as well. Often, men feel a need to keep this part of their life secret from - or at least unacknowledged by - their partner. Yet many women would be interested in watching their partner masturbate.

As with so many things related to sex, there isn’t a lot of hard scientific evidence to measure how common a desire it is among women to watch their man masturbate. However, based on an informal survey of various websites, forums and discussion sites, it seems that there is at least a considerable number of women who find (or would find) this voyeuristic exercise to be very appealing. And there also appears to be quite a few men who would enjoy exhibiting their masturbatory methods for their partner.

Learning experience

It does make sense. After all, watching a man masturbate can be a learning experience for a woman. Seeing the way in which he fondles himself, what areas of his penis he gives special attention to, how firmly he handles himself, how often he re-lubricates, when and how often he varies his stroking rate, what other parts of the body he stimulates - all this can give her insights she can then use when engaging sexually with him.

And many men - though not all - have an exhibitionistic streak and would enjoy the opportunity to safely handle his wares in front of a partner.

If either partner is interested in this experience, it behooves them to bring it up and talk about it with their mate. Although this can take courage, it’s usually worth the risk to open up a dialogue at the least.

How to perform

If a couple does decide this is an avenue they are eager to take, they should decide on some specifics. For example, is this a one-way deal - the man will masturbate only - or will it be reciprocated by the woman having a turn to masturbate as well? Is it to be kept strictly solo, or is the partner invited to lend a hand if she feels so moved? And what about verbal communication - should the woman stay quiet and just watch and the man pretend she isn’t there? Or should she feel free to talk to him as he masturbates?

The couple should then decide how to proceed. Are they ready to jump right in and just let the man start masturbating right then and there? Or would they prefer to go through any "rituals" the man typically uses (e.g., watching porn, creating a fantasy, slowly stripping, etc.)?

It might be decided that want to set up a different time for the viewing, later in the day or later in the week. Or perhaps the man will simply say he won’t hide his masturbation any longer and just let her catch him naturally.

For some couples, role playing may be a good way to ease into the activity. They could play a game or Truth or Dare, with the man’s dare being to masturbate. Or they could fantasize she is a cop who demands he masturbate or else go to jail.

Whatever works for a man and his partner in terms of sharing his masturbation, the man will want to make sure his penis looks good. Using a top rate penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) is excellent for this purpose. A crème with both Shea butter and vitamin E will moisturize the skin, keeping it supple and avoiding unsightly dry patches. And if the crème also contains alpha lipoic acid, a powerful antioxidant, so much the better. Alpha lipoic acid battles free radicals, which left unchecked can cause penis skin to look aged and thin.