Better Sex: Using Pornography to Enhance the Sexual Experience
August 31, 2015Pornography gets a bad rap, and not without some justification. Yet despite problems with it, pornography in many different forms continues to be enjoyed by men (and women). Since frequent ejaculation is a component of penis health, the masturbatory aid can be seen as conducive to a healthy activity. But it’s not just for solo use; pornography is often used as a way to stimulate better sex for a couple.
It's not always visual.
When people think of pornography, X-rated videos and pictures are what tend to come to mind. Yet pornography doesn't have to be relegated strictly to the visual realm. Some couples may find that audio-based porn may be more up their alley.
For example, simply "talking dirty" may stimulate sexual interest in a new way. If a couple tends to use technical terms when referring to their organs or their actions, they may respond positively to getting "down and dirty" with their language during sex.
Role-playing is another option. A couple decides on a sex-based scenario and takes on the guise of characters in that scenario. For example, a man may play a policeman pulling over a woman for speeding. The woman explains the sexual favors she would do to get out of receiving a ticket, and the couple moves forward from there.
Or some couples may simply enjoy having sex while listening to (but not watching) an adult video. The sounds of other couples moaning and groaning may stimulate more than one's audio senses.
But visual can be good.
Of course, "traditional" pornography is also a worthy option. Assuming that both partners are interested in exploring this together, it still helps to discuss a few things in advance:
- Comfort level. Are both partners equally interested, or is one "pushing" the other? There's not necessarily anything wrong with asking about it, but partners need to be sensitive and realize that some people simply may not be receptive.
- Genre. A man may be intensely into a pornographic video in which one guy is serviced by a bevy of beautiful women. His mate may also be into this - but then again, she very well may not. It's a good idea to determine in advance what areas of pornography a couple wants to explore; in general, it's usually best to start with fairly "straightforward" porn.
- Share. Couples should establish that sharing their thoughts about the porn - whether during or after the viewing - is acceptable and can lead to better sex. For example, a woman may want to point out that the position a couple is using onscreen might be a lot of fun, or a man may want to say that the way the actress is stroking the actor's penis is exactly the way he likes to be fondled. It's also okay to continue this conversation when the couple has moved on to engaging in sex themselves. Saying, "Can you enter me the way he did?" or, "Try holding me that way" while in the midst of lovemaking can be valuable.
Experiencing pornography together can lead to better sex for many couples. Of course, a man wants to make sure his penis is in peak condition for the sex that results from this activity, so he needs to regularly apply a top-notch penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil). Making sure the crème include L-arginine is another good idea. L-arginine is involved in the production of nitric oxide, which in turn is essential for keeping penile blood vessels open - an important factor in erectile health. Also key: selecting a crème with acetyl L-carnitine. The penis often becomes de-sensitized due to rough handling. Acetyl L-carnitine is neuroprotective and helps to maintain proper penis sensitivity so that the organ experiences all those pleasurable sensations.
Posted by John Dugan. Posted In : Men's Health
