Couples are enthralled by the idea of the simultaneous orgasm, but sometimes a guy's excited penis doesn't want to cooperate in the pursuit of this goal. Of course, almost any sexual activity is enjoyable and worthwhile, especially when a man is taking appropriate steps to ensure good penis health. However, for those who are interested in pursuing the simultaneous orgasm, the following tips may prove beneficial.

Tip #1: Be in the right frame of mind.

Many men approach the pursuit of a simultaneous orgasm in the wrong frame of mind. They may be fearful or feel guilty because they think they tend to finish too fast, or they may feel resentment because they think their partner takes too long to finish. Either (or both) of these attitudes adds unnecessary pressure. Couples will be more successful if they approach the pursuit as a fun activity, like a game. If they achieve the goal, that's great; if they don't - hey, an orgasm is still an orgasm, no matter how it's timed. And sex with a partner is an excellent way to bond.

Tip #2: Be mutual for a while.

Many couples find it is helpful to spend a few sessions engaging in mutual masturbation before attempting an intercourse-driven simultaneous orgasm. The goal here is for each partner to play with him/herself, communicating how close they each are to climaxing and trying to achieve a simultaneous finish through masturbation before moving on to penetration.

Tip #3: Take time with foreplay.

In most couples, the male climaxes before the female. The average time between penetration and ejaculation for the male is five to six minutes; for the female, it is usually twelve to twenty. There are exceptions, of course, but in a typical relationship, a man needs to take plenty of time to manually stimulate his lady friend.

Tip #4: Go oral.

A man should definitely include cunnilingus as one of his foreplay techniques. This can be especially effective if he fingers the woman while performing orally. The "double stimulation" can help add to the level of pleasure she experiences.

Tip #5: Vibrate.

The use of a vibrator should also be considered during the foreplay stages. A woman may wish to apply the vibrator herself during intercourse as well; however, care must be taken that the vibrator does not overstimulate the penis.

Tip #6: Double up.

Some men are able to maintain an erection after climaxing and continue on for another round; "going for two" may be a good way to achieve simultaneous satisfaction with a partner (while getting a second climax out of it as well.)

Tip #7: Be well positioned.

Couples should explore positions and see which one(s) are most conducive to achieving their goal. For many, a woman-on-top position is preferable.

Tip #8: Interrupt if necessary.

Whatever position is chosen, partners should communicate about how close they are to orgasming. If they are far apart on this journey, the intercourse should be interrupted and the partner closer to releasing should pay some manual or oral attention to the other partner.

Tip #9: Practice makes perfect.

Above all, partners shouldn't be discouraged if they don't reach a synchronized climax right away; trying should be part of the fun, while success is the icing on the cake.

All this sexual activity in pursuit of the simultaneous orgasm may turn that excited penis into a sore (if very happy) one. Regularly using a quality penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) with a combination of moisturizers can help; a cream that includes both Shea butter and vitamin E is an excellent choice. It's also helpful if the cream contains vitamin C, which aids in collagen production and penile tissue elasticity. Look for L-arginine on the ingredient list as well; this substance is involved in the production of nitric oxide, which in turns help keep penis blood vessels relaxed and open. Maintaining a healthier penis is a goal all men can achieve.